They learned abusive behaviors and beliefs from somewhere, and that somewhere is almost always abuse/trauma they themselves survived in childhood or adulthood. THIS DOESN’T MAKE THEM ANY LESS RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR BEHAVIOR….
i’m reblogging this again because it was pointed out to me that not ALL abusers are survivors themselves. saying so ignores the fact that a lot of abuse (and rape) is a tool of oppression. in other words, a lot of abusers are entitled white men exerting power over those they oppress. abusers in general seek out those they can easily have power over, so that isn’t an either/or kind of deal, but let’s not downplay the roles of abuse & rape cultures in teaching this kind of behavior - it’s not always learned from being victimized.
not only is the comment above an appropriate correction to op
People with female parts will get about 500 periods in their lifetime. Meaning that you’ll be on your period for a total of around 1200 days. With a loss of about 1440 ounces of blood. Which is approximately how much blood there is in 9 adult human bodies. That, my friend, is some very badass stuff.
“And it has been
of a year.
I have worn
under my sleeves,
on my thighs,
running down my cheeks.
This is what
looks like, my dear.”—Michelle K., It Has Been One Hell of a Year (via aestheticintrovert)
There needs to be a code word or something that means “my brain is fighting me every step of the way today and I feel like I’m going to vibrate out of my skin, so I need you to forgive everything and go slowly and speak softly and lower your expectations.” And then we could all just be like, “I know I said we could go to a movie tonight but… tangerines.” And the other person would nod and squeeze your elbow or rub your head and you wouldn’t feel like a failure.
I’m real tired of seeing skinny white kids painted as THE AVERAGE QUEER. Like please show me a curvy Indian agender kid from Brooklyn, a hispanic lesbian and her black girlfriend. A trans demisexual dude from Korea. GIVE ME SOMETHING OTHER THAN LANKY PALE PEOPLE WITH COLORFUL HAIR PLEASE GOD.